A chilly day and cleaning

[mmcnealy]

My house is finally clean enough to start working on projects! Yay! Yesterday was pretty much a take it easy day, but today I got up and got started cleaning by 9 am, by lunchtime everything was swiffered, vaccumed and in pretty much general order.
Then I relaxed on the couch and read a good book with Ginger-snap purring on my knees.

For some reason my back has been cold all day, no matter what I wear its still cold, I can be overheating everywhere else but it would still be cold. Finally I put on the new little fur shrug that I bought from Maddy on Sunday, its a mahogany silky fur of unknown origin and it covers my lower back which has been cold and hurting, with my black wool short cape and fox fur collar over that, and all this is over a wool sweater. Now I am finally warm, although it looks kinda funny.

I think when I make my next gollar its going to be one of the vesty type ones with a collar that covers the lower back and lined in fur. From my experience this last weekend in garb at the Ithra, where it was cold indoors and freezing outside, that's one area on my body that quickly goes from warm to freezing and then doesn't get warm again easily.

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[jenlemus.livejournal.com]

When will hubby be home? Just a few more days?

[mmcnealy.livejournal.com]

He gets into port on Monday and gets to come home on Tuesday, due to him having duty on Monday.
But starting Tuesday, he's all mine! For 4 days anyway, then the Navy gets him for 24 hours and then he's mine again for another 4 days.

I am a total bundle of nerves over this too. Not really sure how its going to work out.

[jenlemus.livejournal.com]

Over the Navy getting him back for a bit or over seeing him?

I always worried that we somehow won't "work" the way we used to when it's been a while. It takes a bit to feel real, too feel like you're with him and that things are good.

How long has it been since you have seen him?

[mmcnealy.livejournal.com]

Over seeing him. I am also worried about us not working out, about somehow we have changed and are no longer compatable in the 7 months he's been gone. Just worried how its all going to be when he gets home and we settle into normal life again.

[jenlemus.livejournal.com]

I've been luckier than you in that I've got to see my husband about every 3 months over the last year.

When I saw him last, in Germany, we fell right back into our normal patterns, but I still felt "off" for about a day and a half. I was still trying to protect myself from being hurt again (from his leaving). When I went to his graduation from Basic Training last March, we got to spend, total, about 16 hours together. Which made me miserable when I got home, it just wasn't enough time. Since then I've been more guarded around him at first, but it fades.

Your husband might go through something similar to mine, after being gone for so long. He ended up in rehab with a bum ankle, which is a miserable place to be in the Army. When he got home for Christmas, he was all messed up. His first morning home he thought I was with him in his bunk at Fort Jackson and freaked out slightly. He was so quiet too, withdrawn. But he came out of it after a week or so. He had nearly a month off, and we both made the mistake of forgetting it wasn't permanent.

I'm lucky, I've gone out to sea before. I know what it's like. When I got back from my cruise on the California Maritime Academy's Golden Bear, it took me about 3 days to get over the feeling that I had to get back to the ship, that I was free of it. It was only two months but I had a *really* crappy time, so it felt like more than that. I didn't feel normal for a while, I didn't just slip back into that shoe.

If he does act a little off when he gets home, pull back a bit. Yes, it is the hardest thing in the world to do, but he needs to feel his way back into his old life, to process all the changes in himself and fit them in.

The same goes for you too. You'll both need time to adjust to changes in each other.